From Awkward to Authentic: Real Networking Tips for Your Career Comeback
How to Connect with Confidence—Even If You Hate Small Talk
If the word “networking” makes your stomach twist, you’re not alone.
For many returners, especially those reentering after caregiving or time away from the workforce, the idea of making small talk with strangers in a professional setting can feel uncomfortable at best… paralyzing at worst.
But here’s the truth: networking isn’t about being the loudest person in the room. It’s about building connections. And you can do that in a way that feels genuine, even if you’re quiet, introverted, or just feeling out of practice.
So, as you prepare for the WBW Conference—or any return-to-work event—let’s replace pressure with permission. You don’t need to be perfect. You just need to be real.
Start with This Reframe: You’re Not Pitching. You’re Connecting.
Networking doesn’t have to mean selling yourself. You’re not a product.
Think of each conversation as a chance to:
- Learn about someone else’s journey
- Share a bit of your own
- See where your stories or goals might align
That’s it. You’re not auditioning. You’re building professional relationships—at your own pace, with your voice.
Conversation Starters That Don’t Feel Forced
Not sure what to say in the moment? Try one of these openers that spark real dialogue, not just surface talk:
“What brought you to the WBW Conference this year?”
“Have you attended one of these before? What would you recommend I check out?”
“What’s something you’re hoping to walk away with today?”
“I’m returning to the workforce after a break—would love to hear what you do.”
These questions give the other person space to open up and give you a chance to share your own story naturally.
The 80/20 Confidence Trick
You don’t have to do all the talking. Good networking often means being a great listener.
Try this simple mindset shift:
Listen 80% / Speak 20%.
Ask thoughtful questions. Reflect on what you hear. Then, when it feels right, share a short story or example of your own experience.
This approach feels way more natural, and it builds a genuine connection instead of performative chatter.
You Don’t Have to Talk to Everyone—Just One. Forget the myth that you need to “work the room.”
If you have one or two meaningful conversations at the WBW Conference, you’ve succeeded.
Focus on quality over quantity. That one conversation could be with a recruiter. Or someone who becomes a mentor. Or another returner who just gets it.
Trust that connection builds momentum.
How to End a Conversation Gracefully
Don’t know how to wrap up? Here’s a simple line that works almost every time:
“It was great connecting—would you be open to staying in touch on LinkedIn?”
That’s your signal to wrap up and move on—and it keeps the door open for future conversation.
💡 Pro Tip: Jot down a quick note after each chat to help you remember key details before you follow up.
Your Comeback Isn’t a Solo Journey
You don’t need to “network like a pro.” You need to show up as yourself—with curiosity, clarity, and a willingness to connect.
Whether you’re naturally outgoing or more reflective, there’s space for your style in every room you walk into.
Start with one conversation. Then another. And let that be enough.
The Women Back to Work Conference is where returners like you find their people—and their next opportunity.
Join us on August 21, 2025, in Santa Clara for employer meetups, workshops, Power Hour prep, and a community that truly understands the return-to-work journey.
